tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29590739892382303152024-02-19T04:47:53.384-05:00Pardon My ASLA funny, honest, ADHD, look at the amazing, life-changing, sometimes frustrating, often awkward journey of a hearing chick into the Deaf World.NitaDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01693990699262918371noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959073989238230315.post-88144605630988834472017-04-27T12:53:00.000-04:002017-05-06T10:07:08.634-04:00A VERY BELATED CONGRATS!It's my fault! I'm late, no excuses! Now that I've gotten your attention, I must confess I failed to congratulate two of my friends graduated from Gallaudet University last year. I enjoy not just writing about my experiences in the Deaf Community, but sharing the accomplishments of others who I have had the great pleasure of journeying with even for a brief time. I've known Esther Drake and Zamica Gage for several years. It's been an honor to count them among my friends and a pleasure to hang out with them.<br />
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I met Esther Drake at her church in October, 2010 when my Deaf Mom, Kari Analco (Kari Olney back then) and I visited. We didn't hang out at first, but I would see her in passing because she and Kari hung out. A few months after our initial meeting, I saw her at the end of a session at a conference he church hosts. We hugged and I felt she was a warm person. Every time we saw each other and hugged, I felt like she considered me to be a long time friend, even though we barely knew each other! The next day, I asked Kari to give her my email, because I wanted to hang out with her and before I knew it Esther texted me. We're been friends ever since. Esther, you have graciously invited me into you home several times over the years. I've enjoyed spending time with you and my (not so) little buddy and future Gallaudet University football and basketball star, Jeremiah. Your encouragement has been priceless! Your perseverance has paid off!<br />
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I left church a little early one Sunday in November or December 2012 to go to work when I was employed as an athletic training aide at Gallaudet University. I think I was at the sink when I felt tap on my shoulder. I turned around and a student athlete asked me if I was at church that morning. Turns out, she had been invited by some mutual friends we had at the time. The four of us started hanging out as a group and it wasn't long before Zamica and I became friends. You have likely read my posts in which I congratulate her on making different USA Deaf Basketball teams. She's an amazingly talented athlete and her graduation means Gallaudet University has lost an irreplaceable talent! Zam, Zammer, Zaminator, it's been awesome knowing you. Not only have you taught me some ASL, you've also taught me about Deaf Culture. I have seen you grow as an athlete AND as a person! You challenge me without even realizing it!<br />
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Two cool chicks, one grateful blogger! Our relationships shape us more than anything else. I just happen to be blessed with some of the best. Esther and Zamica are just two examples. So, from someone who fully acknowledges she couldn't do what she does without the AMAZING people in her life, Esther and Zamica THANK YOU AND CONGRATULATIONS!!!</div>
NitaDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01693990699262918371noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959073989238230315.post-358051301347653242015-08-02T18:53:00.000-04:002015-09-28T17:42:41.493-04:00THANK YOU ESTHER*!!!<span style="font-size: large;">Esther of the Holy Bible was a queen and a heroine. She famously saved her people (the Jews) from annihilation. The only thing stranger than the plot twists in this story is the fact that it's ACTUALLY TRUE!!! Esther Drake, on the other hand, is not a monarch and I don't know if she's ever saved anyone's life. While that is not exactly a glowing endorsement (and anticlimactic), I am PROUD to say she's my FRIEND!!!</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Just over 3 years ago, I asked Esther Drake to show me to Gallaudet University's library so I could study Deaf Culture. She and her son Jeremiah (future Gallaudet football and basketball star) escorted me first to the exhibit in the Edward Miner Gallaudet building, then to the Merrill Learning Center (campus library). Since then, I've spent hundreds of hours in the building named after Gallaudet's fourth president reading dozens of books about Deaf History, written my Buff and Blue (BnB) articles there, and composed this post in my favorite spot there. It's the very building in which Esther and I had a fateful conversation.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">At the end of the Fall 2014, I was doing some research for a BnB article (that never materialized, but I hope to revive at some point) and saw Esther. I told her about what I was working on. She asked me if I wanted to write a book. I replied that I didn't want to, not because I don't think I'm capable of doing so, but I don't think that's the best outlet for my writing talent.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Fast forward several weeks, maybe about a month, to Friday, December 19th. I was talking with an acquaintance about how I needed to use my writing skills to enter some scholarship contests. I showed him my very first BnB article, "Gallaudet's Finest". He was impressed. He said he had some papers he wanted me to look at and maybe come up with something. His dad was a World War II veteran who died a few years back, but had left behind some records. I excitedly replied, "You want me to write something up for you?!?" At this point I just thought he wanted me to write something for his personal records or his family's records. He said, "Yeah, and whatever happens, I just want 5%." I said, "You want me to write a book?!?" I couldn't believe it!!! Just a few weeks earlier, Esther had asked me if I wanted to write a book. She had gone from being a friend to also being a prophet! Naturally, she was one of the first people I told.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Now, this is an AMAZING opportunity!! I've met my acquaintance's mother and been to their house where I looked over some of their records. I'm not sure, however, if I will write the book. Why? Because it would be a very time consuming process and would no doubt consume time I could otherwise be spending with the Deaf Community. Whether I write the book or not, I will ALWAYS be most proud of my writing to, for, and about the Deaf Community whether it's my BnB articles, this blog, or future endeavors, because THAT is where my heart is!!!</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">So, Esther Drake will probably not have a book of the Bible named after her. (I think that's pretty much done.) She probably won't be a queen and may never save a life (if she already hasn't). But for the last 5 years, she has been MY FRIEND, which was more than enough!! Now, she's also a PROPHET! So as a belated birthday gift, THANK YOU ESTHER!!!</span></div>
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NitaDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01693990699262918371noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959073989238230315.post-48755877503598442372015-05-24T16:24:00.002-04:002015-06-07T16:31:27.378-04:00BALLERS<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-size: large;">BISON ROCK!!! I have been blessed to be surrounded by some amazing, talented, intelligent people. Each year, I enjoy dedicating a blogpost to recognizing the accomplishments of BISON I know personally. It just so happens that each of the BISON I am honoring this year are part of my favorite team, the Gallaudet University Women's Basketball Team and one is a former member. It is my great pleasure to feature 4 </span><span style="font-size: large;">friends in this post: recent Gallaudet grads Lane Peters and Nikkia Smith, along with Zamica Gage who was named to the USA National Team for the World Deaf Basketball Championship. I am also including former Galluadet baller Kari Olney who is getting married shortly.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Lane Peters just wrapped up her undergrad studies with a Bachelor's in Sociology from Gallaudet. Although she was a key player on the basketball team, she is a volleyball player at heart. You DO NOT want to be on the opposite side of the net from her!!! She is an absolute MONSTER on the volleyball court and was MVP for the 2013 North Eastern Athletic Conference tournament and 2013-2014 Student Athlete of the Year when she played volleyball, basketball, AND ran track!!! Her presence on the basketball court will be sorely missed not only because she was the lone 6-footer, but more importantly because of her production. As a co-captain this year as she led the team in rebounds (5th in the conference), recorded 5 double-doubles, and was named the team's Most Outstanding Player. Lane, I know I have teased you for being "so volleyball", but you HANDLE BUSINESS on the basketball court as well!! I wish I was there to see the NASTY block Zamica told me you had on the road against Cazenovia!! I was initially surprised when I saw your name on the basketball roster in Fall 2013, but I'm a believer now. Because of you, I have developed greater respect for volleyball and even enjoyed several games at the Field House. You, my friend, are a cool chick and a TRUE BALLER!!! </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Nikkia Smith has faithfully served as a graduate assistant alongside Head Coach Stephanie Stevens for the last 2 years and the ONLY assistant coach for the last year and a half. She's a newly minted Gallaudet graduate with a Master's in Public Education. She was the all-time leading scorer for her high school (boys and girls teams) and went onto a NCAA Division I career at the University of Hartford where she was named team MVP as a senior along with numerous other awards. She has been involved with Deaf basketball camps for several years. She has been a key factor in the monumental improvements the team has made over the last 2 seasons. Nikkia, your leadership has been vital to the team's success and is irreplaceable. I personally have enjoyed chatting with you from time to time. Your competence, intelligence, and confidence will serve you well in your future endeavors!!!</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">The ZAMMER, the ZAMINATOR, or just ZAM! Zamica Gage was named to the USA National Team this year for the World Deaf Basketball Championship that will take place in Taipei, Taiwan July 4-12. After much deliberation, she recently decided not to play as other priorities require her attention. She began this season as a starting shooting guard and was moved to point guard in January. She led the team in scoring (10th in the conference) and steals (3rd in the conference) and fortunately has another year to go. Zam was named to the All-NEAC Second Team. She is RIDICULOUSLY talented in so many sports. Zam, I've had the wonderful opportunity of seeing you grow as a person, especially over the past year. You probably don't realize it, but YOU challenge ME to be a better person! I'm PROUD of you!!! I LOVE YOU, SIS!!!</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">I don't normally recognize impending marriages in my annual tribute post, but I am making an exception for Kari Olney, my Deaf Mom. Kari was my inspiration for learning ASL and my first ASL teacher. It's been 6 years and I've still probably learned more than half of the ASL I know from Kari, my ASL class at Gally notwithstanding. She's an INCREDIBLY patient teacher! Neither of us realized that she would open up a whole new world to me and change my life! I never had any interest in ASL or the Deaf Community before meeting Kari, but now I CAN'T GO BACK!! Even more important than that has been her friendship. YOU ROCK DEAF MOM!!!</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Each of these ladies has represented Gally with distinction and excellence!! I have only listed a few of their accolades. They are proud to be BISON and Gallaudet is proud of them! Above and beyond their individual accomplishments and their contributions to the success of the BISON, I am particularly proud to call EACH of them my friend!!!</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">CONGRATULATIONS TO THE ENTIRE GALLAUDET UNIVERSITY CLASS OF 2015 AND ALL THE BISON REPRESENTING THE USA IN THE WORLD DEAF BASKETBALL CHAMPIONSHIP IN TAI PEI, TAIWAN!!!</span></div>
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*You can read more about the team in "Leading the Bison Charge!". Just click on the title at the top of the page or simply clicking this link http://pardonmyasl.blogspot.com/p/lr.html</div>
NitaDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01693990699262918371noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959073989238230315.post-72218998127867736622014-12-23T16:24:00.002-05:002015-05-21T16:50:06.320-04:00I'M STILL STANDING!<span style="font-size: large;"><i>I'M STILL STRONG! </i>These are the words Antwone Fisher said to his foster mother (who verbally and physically abused him) and his babysitter (who molested him) when he saw them for the first time in several years. "Antwone Fisher" is my favorite biopic and this is one of my favorite parts of the movie. I have watched that movie start to finish probably more than any other movie. Although I have not faced nearly the level of adversity Antwone experienced, I currently find myself in the midst of a mix of blessings, challenges, and opportunities that are shaping me into a better person, signer, writer, and most importantly, hopefully a better friend!</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Picking up where I left off in "Round 2", I applied as a non-degree seeking student after being denied admission to the Hearing UnderGrad Program at Gallaudet University. I was accepted and I placed into ASL 111, which is ASL I and ASL II combined into an accelerated course. Turns out, my professor was Kari Olney's assistant basketball coach in high school. (Of course, Kari knows all the Deaf people in the world.) I got an 89% for the class, just barely missing an "A". I thought I could take my class free as an employee, however found out around mid-semester I could not get a tuition waiver as a temporary employee.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Of course, I continued my watergirl duties. I worked fewer hours due to budget cuts and students who volunteered for class credit. But it's particularly gratifying this year as I get to see Zamica Gage handle business on the hardwood!!! She has taken several hard fouls this season, BUT TEAMS CAN'T STOP THE ZAMINATOR!!! As a starting shooting guard and sometime point guard, she leads the team with just under 19 points a game and also contributes 5 rebounds and 2 steals per game. I'm PROUD of her both on AND off the court!!! LOVE YOU SIS!!!</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I was somehow able to convince (without bribery or blackmail) the Buff and Blue sports editor to allow me to write an article. I now have two articles online and have 2 more in the works. (You can click on the link below to read my articles. I write under the pen name GU Water Girl.) I was excited to exercise my writing skills in a new way. I particularly enjoy the interviews. (We have some AMAZING people at Gallaudet!!!) I truly believe the editing process has made me a better writer, even with just 2 published articles, so far. It teaches me to write with more clarity and to be more organized. However, sometimes I feel the edits don't accurately represent what I'm trying to articulate. I DO enjoy the process, though!</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">A few months ago, car problems left me without access to a vehicle. Even that has a bright side, because I have been walking A LOT and find that walking helps me control my stress. As a severe introvert, it gives me time to process things and it's easier for me to think when I'm moving. I find it to be very peaceful. That pretty much sums up this past semester, so what's next for me?</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I don't know! (That answer was anticlimactic, wasn't it?!) I may have to work next semester to pay off my tuition. I can't register for classes anyway as long as my balance is over $1,000. Now, the athletic director wants everyone with my job to be students. So, I told my boss, if I'm not a student next semester, I'd like to keep my position as a volunteer. I'd rather volunteer than not do it at all! At the very least, I will continue to support the Bison basketball teams as a fan! I'm also stepping up my scholarship research (particularly for essay contests) in preparation for Fall 2015. I GOTTA get in next Fall!</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">This semester has had it's ups and downs. FINALLY becoming a Gallaudet University student (even if it is just non-degree seeking with one class) and writing for Buff and Blue are dreams come true!! My struggles have made me more patient, helped me see the bright side of difficult situations, made me stronger, and helped me mature. (I know, the idea of me maturing is scary!!!) So, like Antwone Fisher, yes I am still standing! Not only am I still strong, but now I'm even stronger! I will defer to Antwone to finish the opening quote, "AND I ALWAYS WILL BE!!!"</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">http://www.thebuffandblue.net/?author=262</span>NitaDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01693990699262918371noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959073989238230315.post-58454017191931889992014-07-30T11:01:00.000-04:002014-09-04T19:36:26.107-04:00ROUND 2<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Yeah, I know, ROUND 1 was 1 1/2 years ago and I've just now gotten around to ROUND 2. Call it the spiritual gift of procrastination. So, I'm sitting here in the library in the Merrill Learning Center (Gallaudet University's library) and I just spoke with Melba Goodwin, who is the director of the Hearing UnderGrad program. I was pre-approved for admission based on my previous college transcripts and ACT scores-including a perfect score on the essay. (Ok, I admit, I took the ACT on campus and Gally gives you like twice the time, but you get to witness my stellar writing skills here in my blog!!! And yes, I am very humble!!!) Anyway, ROUND 2 was the hard part. I had a HUG interview and the American Sign Language-Proficiency Interview.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">It's probably NOT a good thing when during an interview, the interviewer keeps telling you to relax and drink some of the water she gave you before the interview began! I wasn't as nervous as I appeared. I wasn't sure how Melba and her boss, Trina Schooley, felt about my answers though. Melba took A LOT of notes, which can be unnerving for the interviewee. (Yes, that's a real word; I looked it up. Google can't lie, right?!) Anyway, it could have gone a lot better; probably could have gone a lot worse, though.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">The ASL-PI was my real obstacle, though. Basically, it's a conversation with an "interviewer" that is recorded and then evaluated to determine the interviewee's ASL skills. I felt the conversation was quite pleasant. We mostly talked about my major (PE). However, my score was low. </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">After getting my ASL-PI score in April and not receiving a final decision, I FINALLY went to talk to Melba in person. She said they had mailed me a letter saying I was denied due to my low ASL-PI score. (If only I had half the proficiency in ASL that I have in English...) I never received the letter, but that is irrelevant at this point. The question is what to do next short of going van Gogh* style. If I was deaf or hard of hearing, I could be admitted without the ASL-PI and simply have to pass it for graduation. As much as I want to go to Gally, I don't think I can pull off the van Gogh look!!!</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Two of my friends, JB and Zamica Gage, have recently offered to tutor me in ASL. Others have offered in the past. I am also looking into taking classes on campus. I will just have to go more rounds than I intended. I will have to wait a little longer to suit up in the BUFF AND BLUE and play for Coach Stephanie Stevens. I have had the honor of witnessing her coach up close as part of my watergirl duties and spoken with her personally. I have great respect for her personally AND as a coach!!! (I'm NOT just saying that cuz she will have the authority to make me run suicides one day!!!) </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">*Vincent van Gogh was a painter in the 19th century who cut off his own ear. </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"> </span>NitaDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01693990699262918371noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959073989238230315.post-55113282866836345752014-05-16T16:17:00.003-04:002014-06-06T14:49:01.170-04:00THE ONE, THE ONLY...<span style="font-size: large;">THE COOLEST, CRAZIEST CHICA EVER IN THE FREAKIN UNIVERSE!!! Today my friend, Asia Riedinger, is graduating from Gallaudet University. Of course, I am proud of her. I am even more proud that she is Magna Cum Laude. But you don't get your own post in this highly-acclaimed blog (I can dream, can't I?!) based on such superficial criteria. Don't get me wrong, I'm not discounting her accomplishments. I AM truly proud of her. But I'm even MORE proud to count her as a personal friend!!! I would not trade the time I spent hanging with her for ANYTHING!!! I will miss her dearly...especially when she scolds me by shaking her finger at me!!! I wish nothing but the absolute best for her as she pursues future endeavors. CHICA, YOU ARE THE BEST!!! I LOVE YOU!!! (PLEASE, don't tell Zims)!</span>NitaDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01693990699262918371noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959073989238230315.post-39411502569697888502013-07-21T16:05:00.003-04:002013-07-24T21:07:05.223-04:00GO BISON 2013!!!<span style="font-size: large;">According to the Chinese calendar, 2013 is the year of the snake. (I googled it and the internet can't be wrong, right?!) Actually, 2013 (and every other year for that matter) is the year of the BISON...Gallaudet University BISON that is!!! I am dedicating this post to 5 BISON who have each achieved major success in one of two categories this year. I know of other BISON who have also accomplished the same feats, however, I am highlighting these 5, because I know each of them personally.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">The first set of BISON I want to acknowledge are the Class of 2013. Of course, I want to congratulate ALL the BISON who graduated this year, but these are the ones I know personally.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">First up is Laura Penrod. She got her Bachelor's degree in Family and Child Studies. I met Laura about 2 or 3 months after starting to learn ASL. She is actually my 2nd Deaf friend. Laura, I have enjoyed hangin with you and only wish we could have hung out more!!</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">The final 2013 grad I want to highlight is Heather Zimmerman. Zims received her Master's in International Development and is going for a Doctorate in Education. Z, you are my milk chocolate sista (sometimes A LOT more milk than chocolate, though). I will NEVER have another friend quite like you and the world will NEVER have another friendship quite like ours!!!</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Students graduate from Gallaudet University every year, however, the Summer Deaflympics only happen every 4 years. I recognized many of the names of the athletes representing the Team USA in the Deaflympics, especially men's and women's basketball players, from my volunteering and subsequent employment as an athletic training aide (I prefer "watergirl") this past year. It was a pleasure to serve them and I applaud them for making Team USA!!! (For a full list of GU athletes and coaches who coached or played during the 2012-2013 school year and are participating in the Deaflympics for Team USA go to </span><a href="http://www.gallaudetathletics.com/"><span style="font-size: large;">www.gallaudetathletics.com</span></a><span style="font-size: large;">.) Now I want to recognize my friends who will represent Team USA.*</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Zamica Gage is a student at Gally and a TREMENDOUS athlete!!! She unfortunately, did not play basketball for the BISON last season due to an injury, but I have played football with her and seen her play softball for the BISON. ZAM, you are one cool and crazy chick and I CAN'T WAIT TO SEE YOU DUNK!!! I KNOW YOU WILL HIT 'EM WITH THE ZAM!!!</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Finally, there is Roman Nawrocki who everyone knows as Rusty. He graduated Gally in 2011 with a Bachelor's in Chemistry. He was one of the first Deaf people I met. Rusty, your are a GREAT guy!! You have always been VERY patient and helpful with me and my ASL. Now, it's time to flip the switch and KICK SOME INTERNATIONAL BUTT IN TAEKWONDO!!!</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I am PROUD to know EACH of these BISON and call them friends!!! I congratulate ALL of them! Once again, CONGRATS to ALL of the Gallaudet University Class of 2013!!! And to all of the BISON representing TEAM USA, CONGRATULATIONS...now handle your business in Sofia!!!</span><br />
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*The Deaflympics run from July 26th-August 4th. For more information about the live streaming webcast, go to www.sofia2013.com and click on "LIVE" at the top of the page. You can click on "CEREMONY" at the top to view a live stream of the opening and closing ceremonies. Thanks to Rusty for providing me with that website!!!NitaDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01693990699262918371noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959073989238230315.post-28106102457516132542013-04-29T21:29:00.001-04:002013-05-01T10:40:03.777-04:00ROUND 1<span style="font-size: large;">"Nita, you gotta go to Gally", said my brother Daryl on Easter Sunday, April 8th, 2012, almost exactly echoing the words Elissa Macias, an interpreter at my church said just 5 or 6 days before. They weren't telling me anything I didn't already know. The conversations were almost identical. "I can't", I replied. "Why not?", they both asked. I then told them that the Hearing UnderGrad program at Gallaudet required a certain ASL proficiency and I didn't know what level was required, but I didn't have it. Both simply responded, "Oh". That was the end of that particular line of conversation for Elissa, but Daryl wasn't quite finished. Now, my brother has been diagnosed with ADHD in the expert lay opinions of me, himself, and probably many others. (Sorry, Big D, it's just part of the story.) But I KNOW he understood when I explained the issue of my ASL level!!! It seemed that line of conversation was over with him as it was when I spoke with Elissa. But after a pause, he said, "Nita, you gotta go to Gally". It was almost like he missed my excuse, although I KNOW he didn't. THAT was the beginning! I already knew I had to do it, I just needed a swift kick to the rear to get the ball rolling!!!</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">For me, this is NOT about going to college, but about going to Gallaudet University! I don't think I would be considering going back to finish my Bachelor's at any other school!!! I get to be more deeply immersed in the Deaf Community than I am even now as an employee! The question for me was never would I get in, but rather would I start in 2013 or 2014? Let's get to it without further ado!</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">YES! YES!! YES!!! I am sitting in the campus library in my favorite seat. I like to write my posts in my notebook before publishing them to my blog. I actually wrote the previous part of this post before checking my email a few minutes ago on the guest computer. I was so overwhelmed, I had to go for a short walk outside before coming back to finish writing. Round 1 is done, now onto the ASL-PI (American Sign Language-Proficiency Interview)!!!</span>NitaDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01693990699262918371noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959073989238230315.post-77014240643658855442013-04-19T18:48:00.001-04:002014-08-03T12:37:56.388-04:00MY DRUNK BROTHER*<span style="font-size: large;">Bet anything that title caught your attention!!! Now let me explain before you start spreading dirty, untrue rumors about my family or go into fasting and intercessory prayer for my brother's soul! </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">This particular incident happened after I had been learning ASL for about 1 1/2 months. It was a beautiful day on November 8, 2009 (yes November in Washington DC), so we had class outside. There were only about 5 of us in this particular session. We were sitting in front of Ebenezers Coffeehouse just sharing stories. I don't remember exactly which story I was telling, but I DO remember it involved my brother. I remember that much because instead of using the sign for "brother", I got lazy. The sign I used was actually "alcohol". Now, this was NOT a Freudian slip. My brother is NOT an alcoholic. (He better not be, he's an ordained minister!!!) My church just happened to be in the "Ritual" series and Pastor Joel had just preached on confession that weekend. Kari said I need to confess alcohol. (Regardless of my behavior, I PROMISE you that I don't drink as of the writing of this post...even if my good "friend" Zims is doing her best to change that!!!) </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Remember, unless you know what you're doing, NEVER try to shortcut ASL!! This is a lesson I'm sure I will have to learn again and again! At the end of the day, we all make mistakes. So let's all be open to learning and help those who are coming behind us and most importantly KEEP A SENSE OF HUMOR!!!</span><br />
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*This post is dedicated to my brother, Daryl, who ALWAYS has my back!!! He encouraged me to apply to Gallaudet University and listens to (and understands) my ADHD like no one else! Love you BIG D!!!NitaDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01693990699262918371noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959073989238230315.post-71113228734934239732013-02-11T21:01:00.001-05:002013-02-22T17:50:22.588-05:00LET ME IN!!!<span style="font-size: large;">I have often said that "God had to trick me to learn ASL, but I'm SOOO GLAD He did!!!" That rings true as much now, maybe more so, than ever before! I have to thank a few more people, though! I have just submitted my paperwork and video essay for admission to Gallaudet University's Hearing UnderGrad program in the fall of 2013. I must say, I am nervous about my chances of being accepted, but I HAD to apply!!! I would rather be denied than not have tried! I must thank Jon Vaughan and Kari Olney for writing recommendations for me! ( I think so anyway, I didn't actually read the contents of them.) I also thank Kari for recording my video essay which I may have the guts to post at some point. YOU ROCK DEAF MOM!!! I also have to thank Zims and the Cool Crazy Chica for helping me prepare for my video essay. Ladies, I know you felt like I was too hard on myself, but I REALLY DO appreciate your help!!! And I can't forget my signer friends and each of you who reads this blog. I REALLY want your comments on this post...good, bad, or ugly!!! (Don't worry, I added most of the exclamation points and caps for the blog version. YOU KNOW HOW I ROLL!!!) And I will let you know the decision, accepted or denied. Here is my written admissions essay. You know I tend to be wordy, so it's gonna take a few minutes to read. Let's dive right in, shall we!</span><br />
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<span style="color: #cccccc; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Persistence! Passion! Loyalty! If the question is what qualifies me to be a Hearing UnderGrad student at Gallaudet University, then these three qualities are my answer in true Jeopardy fashion. When I read the email informing me this was to be my topic, I immediately thought of my persistence. Passion followed within a few seconds, maybe even a minute or 2 later. But, I needed a third. I remember that a true essay or composition must have at least three body paragraphs. Plus, three gives it a feel of completion. It took all of several minutes, maybe 5 or so, for me to think of loyalty. I'm not sure why, because my persistence and passion for ASL and connecting with the Deaf Community are unrivaled in comparison to other areas of my life. However, loyalty, seemingly permeates every corner of my existence. Enough with the introduction.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #cccccc; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: large;">When I began learning ASL, I had no idea how fast I would learn the language. I knew it was an entirely different language than English with a different grammatical structure. My only ASL knowledge was the alphabet and a few other signs. In the 3 years since my ASL birthday (September 20, 2009 was my first ASL class), I have struggled to learn ASL. I remember sitting in class being completely lost as to what my teacher was saying and everyone else was laughing at her story. Yet, as far as I know, I am the only one of that class who is still deeply involved in the Deaf Community. I was also the only one to never miss a class that semester. And my teacher has become my good friend. I have friends with a smaller vocabulary of signs, yet they communicate better than me because they are more visually oriented. Yet, I persist. At this point, I socialize almost exclusively with signers. Though I know that I will be in positions where I am left out of the conversation because of my sign skills, I persist. Why, you ask? That would lead me to explain my passion.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #cccccc; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: large;">I consider myself to be a person of only a few, yet deeply held, passions. Of course, ASL/the Deaf Community/Gallaudet University is also a passion. For me, those three things are inseparable. You must understand why I started to learn ASL to fully understand my passion for it. I had no desire to learn ASL before meeting Kari Olney who had just graduated from Gallaudet in the summer of 2009. I found out she played basketball there and said we should play through an interpreter. Realizing I could not trash talk her, I decided to take her ASL class to learn how. I ended up falling in love with ASL and the Deaf Community. In the 2010-2011 season, I enjoyed volunteering as a timekeeper at several MSSD basketball games. I enjoy helping Deaf members of my church become more involved. I jumped at the opportunity Jon Vaughan, head Gallaudet athletic trainer, gave me to volunteer at the sports camp this summer. I then continued when Mariko Kobanawa, another athletic trainer, said I could stay on during the school year. It was actually a little bittersweet when I became a paid staff member in the same position. Why? <i>Because there is something so freeing about doing something because you love it and for no other reason!</i> I LOVE my my job, though it's part time and minimum wage. I loved it when I was a volunteer! I love blogging about my ASL experiences, including, maybe particularly, the AWKWARD ones. I refer to signers as "my people". I have enjoyed studying Deaf Culture in the Merrill Learning Center over the last several months. And I love the idea of going to Gallaudet University and majoring in PE with minors in Athletic Coaching and Deaf Studies. What can better prepare me to coach hearing and Deaf kids together to help build bridges between the Deaf Community and the hearing world. All of this because of passion and I HAVEN'T REALLY EVEN GOTTEN STARTED, YET!!! How do you know this is NOT a passing phase? Besides the fact that I am persistent when faced with obstacles, I am INTENSELY LOYAL!!!</span></div>
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<span style="color: #cccccc; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: large;">I persist with my ASL because of my passion. However, I am not a particularly persistent or passionate person in most areas of my life besides ASL/Deaf Culture. Loyalty seems to ooze from every cell in my body, however. At 34, I have only ever had one NFL team, the Redskins. That has been for more than 25 years. I grew up in New Carrollton, Md and still don't like to mention the city that was our Boys and Girls Club arch rival. I pride myself on helping my friends and am disappointed in myself when I fail to do so, even if they don't think I did anything wrong. I have NOTHING without my loyalty!!! I can't imagine my life now without the Deaf Community. My goals in terms of career and ministry have been altered in large and small ways, because the Deaf Community is now the focus. My blood runs BUFF AND BLUE!!! I have supported Gally athletics beginning with Pink Day in 2010. I even try to get my friends (mostly Gallaudet graduates and students) to join me at games. A lot of good things have happened recently at Gallaudet, for instance a new dorm utilizing Deaf Space. I see a lot of good things to come, such as using the parking lot across 6th St. to meet student's food needs while connecting with the larger community. No matter what though, as with my beloved Redskins, my loyalty remains through good and bad.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">I'm generally not a fan of change. My motto is "If I don't think it's broke, don't fix it." Even I, however, welcome change in certain situations! I am at the end of a weekend in which both Saturday and Sunday were marked by a "Hello" and a "Goodbye". Each was bittersweet. Saturday was more bitter... though that particular change will undoubtedly have some sweet results. The "Goodbye" was completely unexpected. Sunday's change was more on the sweet side, but a bit bitter also.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><i>Because there is something so freeing about doing something because you love it and for no other reason!!!</i> Don't get me wrong, I DO look forward to being an official Gallaudet employee! I plan to apply for the Hearing Undergrad program in fall 2013, anyway. (Most people go to school at a university, THEN work there. You KNOW I gotta be backwards!!!) I DO wanna work there. It's AWESOME to be offered pay for something you happily did for free. It IS sweet, however it's a bit bitter also.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><br />WHAT A WEEKEND!!! TALKIN ABOUT MIXED EMOTIONS! Yes, I have realized for quite some time that change is inevitable...and even good sometimes. Personally a car accident led me to go on a missions trip which led me to join a small group which led me to meet Kari Olney who became my good friend and ASL teacher. It changed the direction of my life and I will take what I have now over my car in a heartbeat...though I LOVED that car!!! I DON'T want this to be a downer! My point however (I do try to occasionally have a point) is that it would be insincere to pretend that even a sweet change can't be a bit bitter.</span>
NitaDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01693990699262918371noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959073989238230315.post-70290388912189299282012-10-02T22:18:00.000-04:002015-03-07T07:04:24.963-05:00DON'T TALK TO ME!!!<span style="font-size: large;">"Sign, Nita sign". If I only had a million bucks for every time Zims said that to me! (Everyone says they want a nickel or a dollar every time something happens. BIG NITA is going BIG!!!) This chick is on my back when I start talking around Deaf* people! Here is the story that inspired this post.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">It was early May and a group of us were on campus celebrating with a friend who had been a part of Gally's interpreter development program for the last year. She was now moving on and we were sending her off. As I recall, I hadn't actually offended (spoken) that day, but Zims took the opportunity to scold me anyway.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">The festivities were not quite underway yet. A few of us were sitting at one of the tables. We were in the picnic area behind SAC. Not sure how she jumped into her verbal lashing. (Ok, it wasn't that bad, but I gotta give her crap. It's just how we communicate with each other.) I DO remember her saying that when we sign, everyone is happy. (I don't think that applies to MY ASL, personally.) When I speak, some people feel left out. Then she demonstrated. She used our friend Asia who was sitting at the table because we needed a Deaf person to test this on. She asked me a question verbally and had Asia try to read my lips when I answered. She couldn't figure out what I said,</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">One could say that maybe for some reason it's hard for people, or Asia specifically, to read my lips. I've also seen in different resources that even the best speech readers can only pick up about 30% of what is being said. I don't wish to (or feel qualified to) get sidetracked by these points. (See, I can contol my ADHD...occasionally.) Z made her point loud and clear (no pun intended). It's relatively easy for me as a fairly new signer (3 years) and a slow ASL learner to resort to speaking with someone who also speaks, whether they are deaf, hard of hearing, or hearing, when I am in a group that includes Deaf people. I HAVE gotten better. At least when she's around cuz she hasn't scolded me again. The temptation, however, remains. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">So, Z is right. Not just for cultural and communication considerations, but also for the sake of improving my ASL. As much as I LOVE signing and more importantly connecting with the Deaf Community, ASL is difficult, often awkward, and sometimes downright frustrating to me. I must IMMEDIATELY follow that by saying it is ABSOLUTELY WORTH IT!!! I'M ALL IN!!! I need your help here. Don't let me backslide in this area. Hold me accountable. When I am in a group that includes Deaf people, please DON'T TALK TO ME!!! At least when Zims is around...And if I DO slip up, please DON'T TELL ZIMS!!! (It's all in love, Z!)</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I did a duet with Kari. One of my friends was going to record it on her phone, but arrived just as we finished the song. Kari and I arrived early so we could practice. I realized that I wasn't prepared. I knew the signs, but I didn't know the words well enough. Who'da thunk my English would be more of a problem than my ASL?! I'd met with Kari Tuesday when I picked the song I would perform and we practiced a bit. The words were easy so I figured rehearsing right before service would be enough. I think I planned to be able to look at the screen for the lyrics. Now that I think about it, that was the WRONG attitude to have, anyway! I should've done my best to prepare. I think I did ok.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> A couple people congratulated me afterward. I think Vondell had the most honest comment. He said, "You looked like 'What am I doing up here?'" So, I fulfilled my promise. Even though I did it on the last day of 2011, it was a beginning, not an end. See, the "sort of" in the title means this is just one step. I know I will be challenged to do more. One comment led me to start learning ASL when I asked Kari if she wanted to play basketball someday(see "Beginnings" post) and opened my eyes to a different world. One comment led me to take it to the next level (see MY BIG MOUTH post) and who knows what's next?!</span>NitaDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01693990699262918371noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959073989238230315.post-18683392318973155232012-07-29T14:17:00.002-04:002013-02-13T16:37:11.402-05:00MY BIG MOUTH (Part 1)<span style="font-size: large;">So, I admit it, I HAVE A BIG MOUTH!!! No doubt it has gotten me into trouble. Ever promise something and then wonder how it slipped out?! Let me break it down.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">It was the 2nd Saturday in November and the deaf people who likely would have come to Ebz for church were all on the Alpha retreat. Elissa Macias had interpreter duty. But there were no deaf people there! She had to interpret anyway cuz the interpreter is on the sermon video. She told me I could sign the songs if I wanted. I refused but said I would sign ONE song in the month of December. Not sure how those words escaped my lips. My theories are that either she has some mind control powers or that she spiked my drink. I'm open to suggestions of other possibilities.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">It's New Years Eve just past midnight, the last possible day to fulfill my commitment. The service starts in just under 17 hours. I am planning to do a duet with Kari to the Newsboys sont "I am Free". I couldn't have picked an easier song. I must thank Kurtis for his song selection! I asked Kari to join me in a duet because it has a call and response thing goin. It's NOT because I am too nervous to do it alone. At least that's what I tell myself... I will lead and she will follow. It's also fitting that I do this with my teacher and my Deaf Mom. She will join me as I take this next step. Everyone has been supportive: Kari, Heather (yes Crazy Golfer Chick from my "Those Kind of People" post), Esther, Julie, Elissa, Karen, Laura etc...I have given Kari the opportunity to release me from this obligation but she refused. I'm actually not nervous, but a bit excited and looking forward to the challenge...for now. I know my "friends" will continue to challenge me and I am GRATEFUL for that. (Don't tell em I said that.) Let ya know how it goes. If I'd only kept my big mouth shut...By the way, Elissa showed true class and professionalism as she interpreted with excellence. Or maybe that was just her mind control power that made me think that...</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">PS Interestingly enough, we had no deaf people in service today and I did NOT commit to signing any songs. Maybe, I AM actually learning to keep my big mouth shut. DOUBT IT!!!</span>NitaDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01693990699262918371noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959073989238230315.post-59273773956968082002012-07-12T19:46:00.001-04:002013-02-13T16:37:26.702-05:00Failure to Communicate<span style="font-size: large;">Ok, so I've got this problem. Actually, it's just one of many. For the sake of this story, I will just focus on one. Maybe I'll save the others for a well-qualified professional therapist. Anyway, the problem is a language barrier.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">See, I started learning ASL just over 2 years ago. I became conversational pretty quickly. I often think my friends only understand my sign cuz they have the spiritual gift of interpretation. That being said, I can usually make my point...and sometimes even understand others. But what about when my friend is hurting? Will I let my broken ASL be an excuse not to be supportive?!? I was in that exact situation.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I saw a friend (I'll call her Lisa for this story) crying in a situation that should have been happy and festive. I was leaving and another friend (I'll call her Christina) who rode with me was coming to get her coat from the car when we noticed Lisa crying. When I asked her what was wrong, I only understood enough to ascertain that it was about two of her relatives. Christina gave her a hug. After Christina retrieved her coat, she said she would stay and talk to her. Then I left.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Why didn't I offer to help my friend? Part of it is my broken ASL. Part of it is that I'm not particularly comfortable with those situations. I take pride in supporting my friends, usually through chauffeuring or my wacky sense of humor. I want them to feel comfortable talking to me...as long as they don't cry. I firmly believe that the true test of friendship is helping your friends when they are down. When I texted her later that night to apologize, she said she saw the concern on my face. Maybe I didn't disappoint her, but I disappointed myself cuz I didn't uphold my own standards! Even though I left her to be comforted by someone who she knows a lot better, has much better ASL, and is better with those situations, I failed. Actually, I just didn't try!!! I have a hard head and usually don't learn quickly from my mistakes. I hope I've learned this lesson though-not to let a simple language barrier stop me from being a friend!!!</span>NitaDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01693990699262918371noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959073989238230315.post-63595876529046396952012-07-05T12:07:00.002-04:002013-08-25T23:27:31.343-04:00Those Kind of People<span style="font-size: large;">"Zims, what's wrong with your people?", I asked an unexpecting Heather Zimmerman a few days ago. "My people, who are my people, Nita?", she responds. "Hearing people", I reply. I then recount the story which happened literally no more than a minute or 2 before I called her.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">It was Saturday, March 31st and I had just finished volunteering with 3 friends at the 6th annual National Walk for Epilepsy which took place on the National Mall. Michai is the one I know least well. I have only actually met her a few times. She is a big Louisville fan and was no doubt devastated when they lost to arch rival Kentucky that night in the NCAA Final Four. She even got a cardinal painted on her face at the walk. Next up is Heather Suhr or the Crazy Golfer Chick as I prefer to call her. Her interests include: sharing the Gospel with primarily the underserved Deaf Community, Teddy time, and defending golf as a "sport". She claims she doesn't talk trash, but has threatened me with her golf clubs on more than one occasion. (Check out her comment on my "Beginnings" post.) Gotta say, I LOVE eliciting that response from her! Last, but not least is Asia. She is the Cool Crazy Chica or just Chica for short. (Ok, so I've got a thing for nicknames.) I can't believe I met this chick for the first time just over 3 weeks ago. I find myself constantly using the word "AWESOME" in reference to her. She's incredibly sensitive and a very talented artist. She was heartbroken earlier that day when I told her not to worry about coming after she woke up late. I thought it may not be worth it at that point and didn't want her to feel like she disappointed me. She texted Zims who then called me saying Asia was really upset and wanted to come. So, I texted her and told her to come on. Good thing she texted Zims!!</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">So we had just turned left past Union Station near the taxi line when I saw a man I recognized on the other side of the street walking in the opposite direction. He said, "I didn't know you deal with those kind of people." I knew EXACTLY what he meant, but I asked, "What kind of people"? He said, "deaf people". (I guess this was the first time he saw me sign.) I said, "They're my friends." He said, "That's good, though." I'm not sure if he was trying to save face or pat me on the back. Maybe both. Regardless of my ASL skills (or lack thereof) and my understanding of Deaf Culture (even less), it's only natural for me to hang out with signers. Everyone I invited to volunteer that day is a signer. Even more so than my passion to build bridges between hearing and Deaf people, I invited signers because they are my FRIENDS! This is the story I related to Zims minus the descriptions when I asked her what's wrong with her people?</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">When this guy saw us signing and said he didn't know I "deal with those kind of people", it would be like telling a baller, "I didn't know you deal with athletes." I don't "deal with" them for one. They are my friends. For two, they are not "those kind of people". Yes, they are all deaf. But I love them for who they are, not because or despite the fact that they are deaf!</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Zims was, of course, taken back a bit by my asking her what's wrong with her people and saying her people are hearing people. She said the only hearing person she knows is me. I think she was taking a jab at me saying I was "culturally hearing" on the sly. Anyway, my point, and yes I DO actually have one, is that what is usually meant as a compliment to me for my involvement with the Deaf Community (or really mostly just hangin with my friends) is usually a slap in the face to deaf people. And worst of all, they may not even realize it at the time!!!</span><br />
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.NitaDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01693990699262918371noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959073989238230315.post-14367474580694450382012-06-18T12:31:00.000-04:002013-02-13T16:38:00.795-05:00"Thank you" "You're welcome...to my coffeehouse."<span style="font-size: large;">ASL and English are two very different languages. This become apparent quickly when the native user of one tries to learn the other. I learned that ASL was a separate language long before I had any interest in learning, however learning a new language inevitably includes errors and hopefully learning from them.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> I learned the sign for " welcome" about 2 years ago, during the first semester of my sign class. ( I think we were learning church signs during that class cuz I also remember learning the sign for "usher". ) The sign for "welcome" is also the sign I used for "you're welcome" as in a response to "thank you". (Go to <a href="http://www.lifeprint.com/" target="_blank">lifeprint.com </a>to see the sign for "welcome" and an explanation.) That is until one of my Deaf friends, Matt, who is a regular at the coffeehouse I work at called me on it. He tried to explain why it was wrong, but I didn't understand. On a later date, I asked him to explain again why it was wrong. He said the grammar was wrong. He said the sign meant " Welcome to this church or my home." He gave me some options like the thumbs up or the sign for "fine", but said there was no official sign for "you're welcome". But I had already developed a habit. At first, I continued to do it, then remembered afterwards. One time I signed thank you to him and he replied "welcome". I think he was mocking me! I can take a joke. Kari, happened to be there teaching ASL to a student when we had this conversation. He got her attention and scolded her for teaching me the wrong way. She laughed...I think out of guilt. To be honest, I'm not sure if she taught me this as the sign for "you're welcome" or just "welcome". Anyway, I'm sure I signed this as the sign for "you're welcome" for at least 1/2 dozen or a dozen other customers at work and no one corrected me before then. Maybe some of them missed it because I was behind the counter. I would think the regulars at least saw it at some point. Matt himself didn't correct me before or when I relapsed after. I DO appreciate him correcting me because I was eventually able to break the habit.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I try to make it a point to connect with the Deaf Community by asking them about ASL and Deaf Culture. I think that's the right attitude for a new signer. But veteran signers, PLEASE, don't hesitate to correct us newbies when we're wrong. If we are really new to ASL (such as myself), use your better judgement to know when to correct us, cuz we're gonna make A LOT of mistakes. I know you are grateful for this insightful commentary. To that I say, "You're welcome"...or something?!?</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">PS For the record, I actually wrote this late 2011. Since then, I have learned that sometimes this sign IS used as "you're welcome" although technically that is not the official meaning. It is one of the ways that English has influenced ASL.</span>NitaDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01693990699262918371noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959073989238230315.post-16877955664575388082012-06-11T23:02:00.000-04:002013-02-13T16:39:45.665-05:00Beginnings<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">It's often been said that a great thing about America is that anyone can become president. It's also been said that an unfortunate thing about America is that anyone can become president. Easy internet access, countless free blog sites, and freedom of speech likewise make it possible for anyone to have a blog...for better or worse. Enter me. I felt it was just time to share my ASL/Deaf Culture journey with my friends and other signers. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> I guess I should tell you about the very beginning of my journey for those who don't know. One day a man and a woman who loved each other very much...actually let's fast forward a few decades. It was the summer of 2009 when I met recent Gallaudet grad, Kari Olney through a small group. I learned that she had played basketball in college. (Gotta say, there is nothing like the bond between two athletes that share a love for the same sport.) I suggested through an interpreter that we play some day. She agreed. Now if you've been around me for at least 2.4 seconds, you know I LOVE trash talk. I like to give AND receive it. Blame it on playin streetball growin up and being the fifth of seven siblings. As time passed, I realized I couldn't talk trash to this chick. That's an ESSENTIAL part of the sport!! So when she offered an ASL class at our church starting in September of that year, I took it. Yes, I actually started learning ASL so I could learn to trash talk my teacher when we eventually played ball. (Good thing she didn't ask us why we wanted to learn ASL. She knows now.) I didn't know how quickly I would learn ASL (slowly). I didn't even think I would enjoy it (fell in love with it). We have played ball a few times, the first being about a month or so into the class. We LOVE to compete against each other. I still don't know much true ASL trash talk. I'm sure I'll get there one day, but no rush. I'm enjoying the ride.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">I hope you enjoy this blog and look forward to your feedback. Share it with your signer friends regardless of their ASL levels. Whether we are Deaf or hearing, a new signer or born into a signing family, we share one language...or at least we're workin on it. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Thanks to Heather Suhr and Yuri Wijting for suggesting the title for this blog.</span>NitaDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01693990699262918371noreply@blogger.com5